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COURAGEOUS LGBT ALLIES
Allies and
Advocates for LGBT Rights

LGBT Allies are
Straight... But Not Narrow.
An LGBT ally is a
heterosexual (straight person) who believes in and advocates for
homosexual (LGBT) rights. In relation to issues of oppression, an ally
is defined as “a person who is a member of the ‘dominant’ or ‘majority’
group who works to end oppression in his or her personal and
professional life through support of, and as an advocate with and for,
the oppressed population.” A LGBT ally is “a person, often
straight, who
is accepting and supportive of the LGBT community.”
You have the
opportunity to be an ally and a friend at home, school, church and work.
A straight ally can merely be someone who is supportive and accepts the
LGBT person, or a straight ally can be someone who personally advocates
for equal rights and fair treatment.
Allies are some of
the most effective and powerful voices of the LGBT movement. Not only do
allies help people in the coming-out process, they also help others
understand the importance of equality, fairness, tolerance and mutual
respect. They raise awareness and build bridges by actively, publicly,
and courageously practicing acceptance of and support for LGBT people
and speaking out in their behalf.
BEING AN ALLY OR ADVOCATE
Beyond Tolerance: Moving Toward
Understanding, Appreciation, and Celebration
Actively participating.
This stage of response
includes actions that directly support lesbian/gay and gender
presentation oppression. These actions include laughing at or telling
jokes that put down GLBT people, making fun of people who don’t fit the
traditional stereotypes of what is masculine or feminine, discouraging
others and avoiding personal behavior that is not sex-stereotyped, and
engaging in verbal or physical harassment of lesbians, gays, or
heterosexuals who do not conform to traditional sex-role behavior. It
also includes working for anti-gay legislation.
Denying or ignoring.
This stage of response includes inaction that supports lesbian, gay, or
bisexual, or gender presentation oppression coupled with an
unwillingness or inability to understand the effects of homophobic and
heterosexist actions. This stage is characterized by a “business as
usual” attitude. Though responses in this stage are not actively and
directly homophobic or heterosexist, the passive acceptance of these
actions by others serves to support the system of oppression.
Recognizing, but no action.
This stage of response is characterized by a recognition of homophobic
or heterosexist actions and the harmful effects of these actions.
However, this recognition does not result in the action to interrupt the
homophobic or heterosexist situation. Taking action is prevented by
homophobia or a lack of knowledge about specific actions to take. This
stage of response is accompanied by discomfort due to the lack of
congruence between recognizing homophobia or heterosexism yet failing to
act on this recognition. An example of this stage of response is a
person hearing a friend tell a “queer joke”, recognizing that is
homophobic, not laughing at the joke, but saying nothing to the friend
about the joke.
Recognizing and interrupting.
This stage of response
includes not only recognizing homophobic and heterosexist actions, but
also taking action to stop them. Though the response goes no further
than stopping, this stage is often an important transition from
passively accepting homophobic or heterosexist actions to actively
choosing antihomophobic and anti-heterosexist actions. In this stage a
person hearing a “queer joke” would not laugh and would tell the joke
teller that jokes that put down any minority, including gays, are not
funny. Another example would be a person who realized that s/he is
avoiding an activity because others might think s/he is lesbian, gay,
bisexual or transgender if s/he participates in it, and then decides to
participate.
Educating self.
This stage of response includes taking action to learn
more about GLBT people, heterosexism and homophobia. These actions can
include reading books attending workshops, talking to others, joining
organizations, and listening to lesbian or gay music, or any other
actions that can increase awareness and knowledge. This stage is also a
prerequisite for the last three stages. All three involve interactions
with others about homophobia and heterosexism. In order to do this
confidently and comfortably, people need to first learn more.
Questioning and Dialoguing.
This stage of response
is an attempt to begin educating others about homophobia and
heterosexism. These stages go beyond interrupting homophobic and
heterosexist interactions to engage people in dialogue about these
issues. Through the use of questions, and dialogue, this response
attempts to help others increase their awareness of and knowledge about
homophobia and heterosexism.
Supporting and Encouraging.
This stage of response
includes actions that support and encourage the anti-homophobic and
anti-heterosexist actions of others. Overcoming the homophobia that
keeps people from interrupting this form of oppression even when they
are offended by it is difficult. Supporting and encouraging others who
are able to take this risk is an important part of reinforcing
anti-homophobic and anti-heterosexist behavior.
Initiating and Preventing.
This stage of response
includes actions that actively anticipate and identify homophobic
institutionalized practices or individual actions and work to change
them. Examples include teachers changing a “Family Life” curriculum that
is homophobic or heterosexist, or counselors’ inviting a speaker to come
and discuss how homophobia can affect counselor-client interactions.
Safe Zone Resource Guide, Florida State
University. (Model originally developed by James Washington, 1991)
LGBT ALLIES LIST
Greatest Gay
Allies
David Anderson is a music and movie fanatic and content
contributor to Amazon. He has composed a list of the top 25 greatest
LGBT allies among popular musical artists.
  
Anderson's lgbt ally list includes such straight artists
as Sarah McLachlin, Sting, Bette Midler, Madonna, Cher, Barbra
Streisand, Bono, Cyndi Lauper, Christine Aguilera, Pink, Liza Minelli,
and Cheryl Crowe.
Click here for the full list and
commentary
TIPS FROM GLAAD
10 Ways to Be an Ally or Friend
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Be a listener.
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Be open-minded.
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Be willing to talk.
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Be inclusive and
invite LGBT friends to hang out with your friends and family.
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Don't assume that all
your friends and co-workers are straight. Someone close to you could
be looking for support in their coming-out process. Not making
assumptions will give them the space they need.
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Homophobic comments
and jokes are harmful. Let your friends, family and co-workers know
that you find them offensive.
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Confront your own
prejudices and homophobia, even if it is uncomfortable to do so.
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Defend your LGBT
friends against discrimination.
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Believe that all
people, regardless of gender identity and sexual orientation, should
be treated with dignity and respect.
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If you see LGBT people
being misrepresented in the media, contact us at glaad.org.
From
Ramon Johnson,
Your Guide to
Gay Life
Here's how you can join the fight for gay equal rights:
1) Register To Vote!
The best way to tell our government how you feel is to vote! Be sure
to update your address if you are registered to vote or sign up if you
are not.
2) Sign a Petition for Same-Sex Marriage
Your single signature may at first seem irrelevant, but among
millions change happens.
3) Write Your State Senator or Representative
Your
State Senators and
Representatives were
elected by you and act on your behalf. Let them know how you feel.
4) Contact the White House
The Bush Administration opposes equal gay rights. Send letters
supporting gay equality directly to our leader. Let's keep the upper
hand by expressing our opinions with respect and professionalism.
5) Support Gay Schools
Help the Hetrick-Martin Institute alleviate queer youth from the
perils of harassment and violence by contacting the New York City
Department of Education or by providing funding to The Harvey Milk
School.
6) Write the Church
A simple email to gay-friendly churches can go a long way towards
the confirmation of gay clergymen.
7) Support the Servicemembers Legal Defense Fund
The SLDF needs your support as the leading advocate for gays in the
military. Not only do they educate servicemembers on the current
"don't ask, don't tell"
policies, but they provide free legal advice.
8) Watch Gay Television Shows
Despite what your parents said, watching television is good for you-
especially if you're gay! By watching gay-theme television shows you
increase their ratings. Increased ratings make the high-power networks
and advertisers very happy. Hopefully, happy enough that they can't
afford not to have gay programming. Showing Americans gay life on
television may also lessen the fear of gay equality.
9) Volunteer for a Gay Rights Organization
There are several organizations that help promote gay rights and
safety. Find the one that best suits your lifestyle.
10) Lobby for Gay Adoption
The American Bar Association had recently agreed to endorse and
lobby states for equal adoption rights for same-sex couples. Join the
fight!
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